Relationship Magic

Are your suspicions founded?

2011-10-18T01:10:00.000-07:00

Us girls are multi-faceted, complicated and interesting. We like to create our own dramas and ensure that those around us are clear that we know that we know what we think we know. (See - there's the perfect example!) ;-) Most of us are also VERY in tune with what our guys are up to - or are we really? Several of my friends are jealous of the women their husbands (or boyfriends)

When relationships go bust

2011-08-29T12:13:00.000-07:00

With the divorce rate at an all time high and the fact that so many people opt to not commit to marriage, one wonders what keeps people from finding true happiness. It’s not just a matter of falling out of love. Speak to any number of married couples and you’re sure to hear of at least one couple where partners are living the life their partner wants them to live and missing out on their own

How far will you (really) go to forgive? | ViewsHound

2011-08-06T06:41:00.000-07:00

Quick article on forgiveness!How far will you (really) go to forgive? | ViewsHound

First Date with A Woman

2011-03-02T02:05:00.000-08:00

Millions of people go on first dates every day - but how many of those dates result in a relationship or friendship at least? Very few. The reason is that many people are so nervous on a first date, that they do not reflect the special person they really are. In order to correct this, they should have another date with the same person. Let's face it, you cannot get to know someone in two or

Let it go - by TD Jakes

2010-10-07T05:36:00.001-07:00

This is beautiful. Read it to the end... the message is awesome! By T. D. Jakes There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

Beautiful Story

2010-06-02T01:04:00.001-07:00

A REALLY BEAUTIFUL STORY – BE WARNED – HAVE A TISSUE HANDYThe importance of a woman, I struggle to do everything in the morning. A story worth sharing4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder.. how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the

The liberated woman

2009-09-17T22:48:00.000-07:00

Where do we draw the line between being a liberated woman and being a man?Traditionally, it was a man's responsibility to work and be a model of protection and strength for their wives. Women were to take care of the kids and the home.These days, things have changed. Women are expected to bring in the money, look after the home and the kids, be a tower of strength

Abuse

2009-09-17T22:40:00.000-07:00

All relationships have their ups and downs. When you are in a relationship with a person with very high and very low moods, there is always the threat of abuse, whether it is physical of emotional.Why don't women speak out about abuse? - that is a common question asked and I think there are many reasons: shame (because mostly these husbands are oh so sweet in front of

Sex love and marriage

2009-09-17T03:48:00.000-07:00

A few months ago, a famous South African ex-rugby player (Joost van der Westhuizen) got caught up in a sex scandal involving a sex-tape, revelations from jilted ex-lovers and more. The details don't concern me much. However I read an old article last night where a number of people revealed how they would have reacted in that situation, if they were his wife, the famous singer Amor Vittone.The

Men like easy women

2009-09-16T04:14:00.001-07:00

We all know men like easy women... No! Not that kind of easy. I mean easy to live with.Some women, when insecure, become completely difficult. They will nag, push, moan, and then some more. That's the quickest way to push your man away.Let's look at why women become insecure:1) When they believe their man doesn't love them2) When there is competitionIt's only natural

Are men the unfaithful sex?

2009-09-10T01:14:00.000-07:00

I recently saw a headline claiming that women are better at having affairs than men and that got me thinking...Research shows that more men cheat than women, however women are less likely to get caught. Us women love to lie about our weight, our natural hair-colour and we tell our friends they look great in that little red dress that doesn't hide the attack of the

His "take it or leave it" attitude - by Christian Carter

2009-02-20T06:46:00.001-08:00

If you're in a relationship but it seemsto be STALLING or getting stale, and the manyou're with is acting like he can take it orleave it, don't wait for things to get worse.And whatever you do, DON'T make the mistake oftrying to convince him that he should act orfeel differently and somehow that will solveall your problems.I'll put it to you straight - a man will

40 Steps to Relationship Magic

2009-02-20T04:50:00.000-08:00

I found this great email in my inbox, would like to share it with you.ONE. A hug everyday causes better bonding than words.TWO. Never humiliate your partner between friends, it can become a habit and cause things to end sooner than you expect.THREE. Watch how you treat your man/woman, it will be how they start to treat you in the end.FOUR. When you say, "I Love you",

Wives were meant to soar

2009-02-20T04:10:00.000-08:00

A beautiful message by my friend, Ayanda NgwenyaFor in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands. There is a story about a kite that was soaring high in the sky when it saw a field of flowers some distance away. It sure would be fun to fly over there and get a closer look at

Gifts

2008-05-28T03:41:00.000-07:00

Looking for that perfect, romantic gift?Look no further than Eastern Gifts....

Nice Guys

2008-04-25T10:21:00.001-07:00

Here's to all the nice guys out there:http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html

For the Guys: When your younger wife grows up

2008-02-18T13:58:00.000-08:00

There is a fine line between 'younger wife' and 'trophy wife'.Very few men can withstand the ego boost of a young woman's flattery, whether overt or unintentional, but there's more to it than what meets the eye. We are talking about relationships with a large age gap, but what exactly is a large age gap? A girl of 14 going out with a guy of 20 doesn't seem acceptable to me. A woman of 40 going

Is he hiding something?

2008-01-23T10:53:00.000-08:00

Women's magazines are full of wonderful articles with advice for women, by women. Often the articles are about our pet subject - men, those complex creatures that we can't live with and can't live without. An online survey in 2007 on one of the South African news websites found that about 80% of South African women would like to have more sex. One of the sexperts, Dr Beata Cybulska,

Who does the chasing?

2008-01-11T02:43:00.000-08:00

An age old question there just is no firm answer to. Men's magazines advocate that men let the women do the chasing and women's magazines tell us how we should become seductresses and chase men (or else the biological clock will run out and we'll end up living with ten cats and a canary in a small little house far away from the civilised world)...Let's face it - men are not that into reading

Constructive Criticism

2007-09-16T09:21:00.001-07:00

Join me in my discovery of becoming more diplomatic – a selection of tips from various sources. After being told by my significant other that I am the most undiplomatic person alive, I’ve decided to take a few lessons. (One wonders how constructive that criticism was?) The trick is to be critical

Indecision

2007-09-16T09:18:00.001-07:00

Nothing is as frustrating as a person who can’t make decisions… especially if it’s you! There are so many options available in today’s harried life and each option has it’s own pro’s and cons. The question is which option suites you best? Unfortunately the answer doesn’t come that easily. Before

Giving Up Your Dreams

2007-09-16T09:02:00.000-07:00

Making Love Last

2007-09-16T08:51:00.001-07:00

When meeting someone that you really like you should take it easy and get to know the person a bit before rushing ahead into the dating and ultimately the relationship phase. Important things to learn about a new person involve getting to know their core values and whether you share those. Core values include religious values, sexual preferences,

Hang on to your true self

2007-09-06T07:25:00.000-07:00

A common occurrence in relationships is for one person to try so hard to be what the other one expects of them, that they loose themselves in the relationship, usually the woman. Should the relationship end, the woman ends up alone and out of her depth. In the early stages of a relationship we all want to please the new person in our lives and we

10 Steps to Successful Relationships

2007-09-05T02:23:00.000-07:00

What can you do to live a happier life and make people experience you as a person they want to be around?1.Find something you believe in – be it your inner child, your higher me or God, you need someone you can rely on to be there for you in times of need or something to be happy about every day. Make time twice a day or how ever often you need to get in touch with your beliefs to soothe your

A few good men

2007-08-29T06:23:00.000-07:00

I received this email this morning and just had to share it - it's so true! Good men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets,in the malls and the halls at work. Most we can't see because we don't knowwhat a good man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or richenough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a BMW. He might not have a"body like Vin

NEVER do this...

2007-08-27T06:15:00.000-07:00

There are many different perspectives on internet dating. I myself have done a lot of research and even a few test scenarios, yet today I came across something I've never seen before in my life. According to the guys, it's not that uncommon at all...A friend messages d a lady on the day that his subscription ended and gave her his normal email address. She emailed him and straight away the

FINALLY...Your Voucher Worth US$45

2007-07-25T12:50:00.000-07:00

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Handling a break-up

2007-07-13T22:23:00.000-07:00

Break-ups are never easy, at the time. If he was a toxic influence in your life it usually takes a bit longer to get over him, at least until you understand that you really are better off without him.Sometimes he may not be toxic and you may share a really great connection, but for some reason it is not to be. Those are usually the hardest to deal with. Either way, whether you're the one doing

Being Attractive

2007-07-13T09:27:00.000-07:00

Free Graphics & Comments CodesWhen it comes to attraction, I am a firm believer that it comes from inside.Do you FEEL attractive?Being attractive has to do with a lot more than physical attributes - it's about your attitude and how you feel about yourself. It's about making your good qualities more accentuated. Of course when you take care of your outside appearance it's easier to feel good

Handling Rejection

2007-07-13T06:10:00.001-07:00

What do you do if a really great guy rejects you?It's never nice to be rejected, never mind being rejected with the object of your desires...Firstly you need to remember that at some point in their lives, everyone has been rejected. You are not the problem. Perhaps it's not meant to be. Perhaps the guy is unsure as to what he's looking for in a woman, perhaps he doesn't think he's good enough to

X-rated tips

2007-07-13T05:46:00.000-07:00

Please note that these tips are intended for consenting adults in committed relationships only. * When you want to make yourself alluring to him, try raising your arms in a seductive pose, like using them to lift the hair off you neck or put lotion on them while they are raised in the air. * Oils with these scents are believed to have aphrodisiac qualities: sandalwood, ylang ylang, black pepper,

He cheated - now what

2007-07-13T05:25:00.000-07:00

If you are suspicious that your partner has been cheating on you, it is imperative that you find proof and by proof I mean an admission from him, before you start on your path to destruction.We deal with cheating on various posts on this blog, but this one is only about how to carry on if you find out for a fact that he has been cheating and you decide to give him another change. In other words

Zooming in on your Faults

2007-07-13T05:08:00.000-07:00

So you have some character flaws? Made some mistakes?Broadcasting your faults to the whole world is the worst thing you could do - it makes them see you in an even worse light than they already do! (just kidding!)On a serious note, people may never know about your faults if you don't tell them. They may not notice the mistakes unless you draw attention to them.Perhaps you feel dishonest or guilty

His Past

2007-07-13T04:53:00.002-07:00

It's normal to want to know everything that has happened in his past; all the sexual encounters he had and with whom and all the details, in order to achieve an open and honest relationship. It is a great goal if you could achieve it and share all the intimate details and both you and your partner could forget about it afterwards, it is however not that simple for most people.Hearing your partner

Check your baggage

2007-07-13T04:30:00.000-07:00

If you've had a "First Love", you'll know what it's like to be hurt. Maybe you've had some terrible experiences with men before and you'd do anything to avoid it in future.An obvious way to ensure that a new guy doesn't hurt you is to tell him upfront that you don't want to get hurt again. It's never a good idea to do that:1. If the guy has bad intentions or he's the bullying type, he is most

Mr Ex - I've moved on

2007-07-13T04:13:00.000-07:00

Free Graphics & Comments CodesWhen relationships end we are often left with many questions and most of the time we wish for revenge (if he broke up with her) or the need to reach closure. Email is so quick and so easy and we don't have to face him, yet we can get the message across.A friend wanted to send an ex-boyfriend an email the other day "just to clear things up". She wanted to tell him

Love me for me

2007-07-13T03:57:00.000-07:00

As women we know what we want and when we want it, therefore we want a commitment from a great guy pretty early on in a relationship... Many women debate as to the wisdom of the decision to tell a guy right in the beginning of a relationship that you are looking for long term commitment and marriage.Personally, I don't agree with it. If the guy you plan to date is as great as you think, he will

Change and Resentment

2007-07-13T02:57:00.000-07:00

A man who has his act together financially, emotionally, mentally and physically is every woman's dream.A man that has his act together doesn’t sit around and wait for the right woman to come along and show him that he’s lovable and worthy of a relationship as he knows that way he is not going to meet the right kind of woman. The same qualities that we find irresistible in a man are the same

He wants to leave.... how to stop him

2007-07-04T04:53:00.000-07:00

I know a lady who is single. She's been in an on-off relationship with a guy she calls her "fiance". They were together for 10 years and then split up about 2 years ago. She's called him her fiance ever since, talking as though they are still together and for about 4 months now, she's been telling me that she's moving back in with him "just as soon as"... The truth is that this guy is obviously

Finding Mr Right: All the good ones are taken

2007-06-28T00:08:00.000-07:00

Free Graphics & Comments CodesI have a friend who keeps falling in love with "the wrong guys"... At first they all seem great, loving, attentive and caring... But after a short period, they all seem to have "issues" or choose someone else, or sometimes she finds out that they are already attached to someone else.Instead of finding love, she keeps picking the wrong guys. In her mind she pictures a

Men and Space

2007-06-23T03:16:00.001-07:00

At one point we were led to believe that the best way to catch a man was to act like a damsel in distress… This has been taken seriously by many women and up until today, some still think a man will cherish you if you act needy or clingy. That is so last season – especially after he’s asked for ‘space’. Men generally have a short attention span when

Are you his girlfriend?

2007-06-23T02:54:00.000-07:00

This is another one of those very vague issues… When is it okay for a girl to call first, when is it okay to refer to him as your boyfriend without him running a mile? It all depends on when men see you as their girlfriend and it’s not after the first date, or after the first kiss. In order to “date” a

Being too nice

2007-06-23T02:12:00.000-07:00

When a guy starts seeing a girl and they “date” once or twice a week, he is not yet thinking about you having a relationship, even if you have already been physical. He may still be dating other women – he will let you know when he’s ready to go exclusive. He’s merely enjoying your company for the time being. You may as well start relaxing about it

What he thinks when you call

2007-06-23T01:37:00.000-07:00

I know – most men don’t call to let you know they are alive, or to let you know that they’re going to be home late, or that the business meeting went well, or that they are safely back at the office or that they had enough to eat at lunch, or anything for that matter… We have all of those valid excuses to phone and check up on them. Unfortunately

The Talk

2007-06-22T08:39:00.000-07:00

You may have experienced this before. You’re in the early phases of a great new relationship, everything is good, you share a great connection with a really special guy and you’re developing feelings for him, however, he seems oblivious – but he does seem to feel the same. He’s just not saying what kind of future he sees for the two of you and you

First Date First Aid

2007-06-21T10:10:00.000-07:00

What to do and what NOT to do on a first date DO: Be yourself Pay him compliments Show that you are interested in what he says Keep it light and talk about casual topics Dress casually, unless it’s a fancy do DON’T: Talk about your ex (es) Complain about your work, family or anything else Flirt

Finding Mr Right - Part 4

2007-06-21T09:53:00.000-07:00

We’ve spoken about our expectations in Part 1, however despite making lists and collecting photos of what their dream man should look like – a lot of women believe that Mr Right doesn’t really exist or he’s already been snapped up. We’ve all heard the saying “all the good ones are taken or gay”. Unfortunately this brings us to a place where we

Finding Mr Right - Part 3

2007-06-21T09:34:00.000-07:00

Eventually you get to the point where you are exclusively dating. It’s blissfull and you know that he likes you too and likes to hang with you – but you want more. You want to know where you stand. Your strong feelings and connection is not enough to tell you that he is The One. You do know however that he’s into you if he’s been dating you

Finding Mr Right - Part 2

2007-06-21T09:15:00.000-07:00

Sending the right signs Women have become very independent in recent years and we get that strong quality mixed up when we start dating and that could easily put guys off. You need to learn when to be strong and when to be vulnerable. A guy likes to be your soft place to fall, yet when you are alone,

Finding Mr Right - Part 1

2007-06-21T09:12:00.000-07:00

Firstly you need to get your attitude right. Follow the steps set out in “Relationship Readiness”. Then you need to work on a non-negotiable list. These are the attitudes / attributes that you will not tolerate in a man. Do not stray from that list during the dating process. Next to these points – write in the order of importance from 1 (100% not

Affairs and Being the Other Woman

2007-06-21T03:51:00.000-07:00

Affairs are never easy, yet being “the other woman” seems to have such a “bling” to it… Sneaking around could seem like fun – a sure adrenaline boost. However when it gets down to the hard facts, it’s a very lonely place to be. a. In the initial “exciting” phases, you cannot tell all your friends and shout from the rooftops about your love, because his wife might

Are you a crazy woman?

2007-06-20T23:49:00.001-07:00

You may have heard men referring to a woman they recently dated as “mad” or “crazy” and thought that is a harsh statement since there was not enough time to even get to know her. Then all of them had a sympathetic look on their faces and nodded “Hmmm.” What is all that about? Well, guys can go from

He doesn't seem to care

2007-06-20T23:46:00.000-07:00

Men are great at compartmentalising, yet problems arise when they don’t act the way we expect them to. Men are generally solution-minded, whilst women are ruled by emotion. Hence the way we act so differently in similar situations. When something goes wrong in our day-to-day life, say there’s

How to reach an orgasm

2007-06-20T00:17:00.000-07:00

There are different kinds of orgasms. Some are more intense than others, some last longer and some are originated from a different place, physically – such as clitoral climax, g-spot or vaginal stimulation. 90% of the stimulation comes from your mind though and your thoughts could easily put you off. My book will be a lot more detailed on this topic, but here are a few tips: Hmmmm, interesting topic with loads of different theories and perspectives. For now, I’ll just share my views. They say 80% of women fake 75% of the time. That’s quite a lot and I find that pretty sad,

6 Orgasm Killers & Fixers!

2007-06-20T00:14:00.000-07:00

There are many kinds of orgasms and intensities, however for most women clitoral stimulation is necessary in reaching an orgasm. Very few women can reach an orgasm purely through vaginal intercourse. Other factors could also play a part: a) Once again the psychological aspect plays an important role – that can literally make or break a good climax as we’ve discussed in a previous post. This

Female Sex Facts

2007-06-20T00:13:00.000-07:00

Up to 50% of women orgasm infrequently or are dissatisfied with how often they reach orgasm. A sexual response is a complex blend of many physical and psychological variables. What a woman expects, how she believes she should respond, and how she thinks

When you want to give up

2007-06-17T23:33:00.000-07:00

Don't underestimate the power of a touch a smile a kind word a listening ear an honest compliment or the smallest act of caring all of which have the potential to turn a life around

What is jealousy?

2007-06-17T23:21:00.000-07:00

At some point in your life, everyone gets to experience jealousy. Either someone is jealous of you or worse, you are jealous of someone.Jealousy is a complex emotional response to a myriad of emotions and usually right up there is fear. For the victim of jealousy – the person who is envied, it hard to understand why someone would be jealous, especially when you love the perpetrator deeply. Why do

Sexual Punishment

2007-06-15T07:47:00.000-07:00

Free Graphics & Comments CodesSex always has been and always will be a contentious issue in relationships - unless you learn how to communicate efficiently around the topic.It's a known fact that when men are stressed, they find release in sex... and when women are stressed sex is the last thing on their minds....Sometimes during sex, we tend to worry about something that happened at work, our

Is it Love?

2007-06-15T03:13:00.000-07:00

A lady was very upset recently. She was dating a man for about 2 months. They both had their own lives and would see each other about once or twice a week. He wouldn't call her on the other days and she didn't feel comfortable 'pushing' by phoning him. Yet it was driving her mad not knowing what he was doing when he was away (living with his two teenager sons) and felt that their relationship was

Is it a Relationship?

2007-06-15T03:11:00.000-07:00

Sex in Exchange for a Relationhip

2007-06-15T02:43:00.000-07:00

Free Graphics & Comments CodesMany men feel that in the beginning of a relationship a woman would do anything for them where sex is concerned and then it would change the moment they commit or the relationship becomes serious.Some of my friends have used sex to motivate a guy to commit to them - perhaps without realising it. If a relationship forms and the guy still wants as much sex, the woman

Looking for Mr Right in the Wrong Place?

2007-06-15T02:07:00.000-07:00

Although I'm a sucker for social networking sites, I wouldn't use dating sites to look for The One. I would however go on there to look to meet new people or just for fun. I have heard success stories about dating sites and I've also heard horror stories - so use your own discretion and be wide awake.I'll post a message about when to know that you are "in love", when you are "committed" and how

How you repel him

2007-06-14T01:32:00.000-07:00

I finally got around to watching The Secret last night. I must admit that up until last night I've been very doubtful about the fact that I'm actually attracting negative things into my life - I'm not crazy?Well, it's not all about visualisation and positive thinking... So doing just that is not enough to repel negative things and draw positive things to you.So, when your mind tells you that your

Being Attractive to Men

2007-06-13T07:11:00.000-07:00

This chapter is for every woman – those who want to attract the right guy and those who realise that they need to do more to get more. That’s right, as long as your guy is around in the flesh, you can save your relationship very easy by switching his button to the on position!Being attractive to men is so easy that it’s shockingly simplistic and if you are attractive they’d be very tempted to

Marry me OR

2007-06-13T06:11:00.000-07:00

I’m an avid Dr Phil fan and watched a show the other day with a young girl of 26 or younger who wants to get married and her fiancé doesn’t, not within the next 5 years anyway. I felt so incredibly sorry for her. She was an attractive young lady with her life ahead of her and her fiancé was not exactly Brad Pitt…This poor girl’s self esteem was so low that she needed the validation of some guy

Signs of Abuse

2007-06-13T06:03:00.001-07:00

There are so many symptoms of emotional abuse, I’ll just list a few of the most common ones:*Do you feel that you can't discuss with your partner what is bothering you?*Does your partner frequently criticize you, humiliate you, or undermine your self- esteem, often in front of other people?*Does your partner ridicule you for expressing yourself?*Does your partner isolate you from friends,

Signs of Abuse

2007-06-13T06:03:00.000-07:00

Fighting Fair

2007-06-13T06:02:00.000-07:00

Unfortunately, if you use these failed strategies, you are practically guaranteeing your own failure in your relationship.You need to recognise your part in your man’s actions or lack thereof. If you keep telling your man that he’s a loser, that’s what he will become and you will then responsible for how your words and actions affect his attitude.Men don’t like relationships to be

Analysing his behaviour

2007-06-13T05:55:00.000-07:00

Trust is cultivated in a woman when a man sets a benchmark and constantly keeps his word. A promise is meaningless when it’s broken, even once.Trust is also a two way street and you need to show from your side that you are willing to trust him. Don’t allow yourself to analyse his behaviour and look for cracks in his story or flaws in his character. If that’s your style, you cannot expect him to

Finding middle ground

2007-06-13T05:27:00.000-07:00

On that note, ‘knowing one another’ is about more than your favourite food or colour and other crazy ideas as put forth in most dating services and self-help books. It’s knowing what the other person needs at the time, knowing how you can make that person happy when they are feeling down, knowing when they need space and knowing how to give it to them.There should be a certain amount of

Why Magic

2007-06-13T05:25:00.001-07:00

Okay, so you are thinking about skipping this chapter right? You’ve read so many books on this , you know exactly what it’s going to say: talk to each other, eat oysters, wear fishnet stockings…. No – that’s not what I’m going to say!Why do I suggest that you keep the magic alive? Well, there are a million reasons…In order to make a guy understand why it’s important to keep the magic alive,

How do I fix him?

2007-06-13T05:20:00.000-07:00

There’s a long and a short answer – I’ll try to give you the short answer.YOU are a woman and YOU are reading this book. Men don’t have issues with women – if a relationship becomes too complicated, they leave. I don’t want that to happen to you and you want help. When my male friends come to me for advice, I am very quick to give them the female perspective, as I do in my own relationship, which

I want a man - NOW

2007-06-13T05:16:00.000-07:00

When a woman pushes too hard for a relationship it seems as though she’s so desperate for a relationship that anyone, anytime soon would do. Seeing that happen makes me so sad as it really shows that she doesn’t have enough self-respect to wait for the right man to come around. Instead she’d settle for the first guy who gives her the much craved attention she deserves – and often times that kind

Problem Solver Exercise

2007-06-13T05:12:00.000-07:00

Often women find that they make the same mistakes over and over with men and end up beating themselves up over it or else they start shying away from relationships in fear that they are just going to screw it up again.A great exercise to deal with this great 3-step plan:1) Firstly write down the names of all the people you’ve had relationships with in the past and the reasons why you no longer do

Relationship readiness

2007-06-13T05:09:00.000-07:00

Before embarking on a relationship, you need to achieve some measure of balance in yourself - you need to become a better version of you. That doesn’t mean change completely, just be a better, more balanced you. Being balanced is when you are ready to understand what a relationship is all about and when you can accept that no person can be 100% perfect. You cannot expect your man to be faultless

Why men are slow to commit

2007-06-13T05:02:00.001-07:00

One thing I wish women would learn to understand is that a ring is not the ultimate commitment. A ring is merely a symbol of ‘having a man’ and many men would rather not be married to the woman they are married to, but did it to preserve her feelings. It sometimes seems to me to be to some women to be a tool of control, rather than a symbol of love.You will find that in many relationships where

Why men are slow to commit

2007-06-13T05:02:00.000-07:00

Is he cheating?

2007-06-13T04:59:00.000-07:00

Let’s face it – women are big fat hypocrites, even the skinny ones!When we are with our girl-friends we discuss our families for two minutes, give a very quick update on the kids’ developmental milestones, the bitch at work gets about three minutes in the spotlight and then we’re onto the men. We tell our friends our one-sided story about his latest irritating habit and the fact that he hasn’t

What do men talk about?

2007-06-13T04:51:00.000-07:00

I can hear that question burning inside of you: What do men discuss? Do they kiss and tell? Do they discuss other women or only me?I was out to lunch with my hubby Wade and my friend Peter the other day when we were talking about friends that interfere in relationships, etc. when I thought I’d test the waters to see if I can be profound enough to write this book. I said: “See guys, what you don’

What is companionship?

2007-06-13T04:44:00.000-07:00

Companionship is a big word for something that has many aspects. Men crave companionship.Doing things together is part of it – it’s also about how things are done together. Let’s face it, we do sex together – does that mean we are companions? In a way, yes – but men are not as shallow as we give them credit for. To men it’s being there with him that counts – not just the fact that you are there

He has a funny way of showing his emotions...

2007-06-13T04:33:00.000-07:00

I’m sure you’ve heard that line before – in fact, I’m sure you’ve said that before. I have, we all have. Why is it that men don’t cry? Why doesn’t he tell you how he feels about you or anything else for that matter. Why can guys not just be like women – it will make life so much easier and we’ll all understand each other.Well, guys say exactly that about us women. Why does she cry all the time,