Apologies

Hi All

I want to use this space to apologise to anyone I may have offended in my blogs or in any other way.

Some of my messages have been taken out of context and others were probably too direct and therefore the consequences were to be expected.

I sincerely apologise for everything I said that offended anyone. I don't go around talking about things that go on in my head or in reality.

Nobody should be treated in a certain way and expected to just keep quiet forever.

As it goes with blogs, the more sensationalism you bring into it the better. I guess that's something that's just understood by those in the blogosphere...

Apologies and goodbye.

The liberated woman

Where do we draw the line between being a liberated woman and being a man?

Traditionally, it was a man's responsibility to work and be a model of protection and strength for their wives. Women were to take care of the kids and the home.

These days, things have changed. Women are expected to bring in the money, look after the home and the kids, be a tower of strength for the family and making sure that the husband actually drags himself out of bed in the morning.

No wife wants to be her husband's mother. It makes one wonder what these men were taught by their mothers? If they can't take responsibility for the smallest things, how are they going to care for their families?

That automatically leaves the responsibilities of the husband to the wife, who now in conjunction with her normal wifely duties has to take emotional and physical responsibility.

What's the point of having a husband if he's simply a further drain on your resources?

Abuse

All relationships have their ups and downs. When you are in a relationship with a person with very high and very low moods, there is always the threat of abuse, whether it is physical of emotional.

Why don't women speak out about abuse? - that is a common question asked and I think there are many reasons: shame (because mostly these husbands are oh so sweet in front of others - certainly not the type you would expect it from), fear (of the unknown and also what he will do to you if you spoke out), but most importantly, these abusers know exactly how to play people. "She's lying", "She's over-reacting", "She pushed me" - so basically, they leave you with nothing.

I think it's important for a woman to have courage to speak out. It really doesn't matter what others think of you, your life is more important. If there are kids around, you need to speak out sooner rather than later.

You are the biggest role models for your children. Do you want your daughter to be a wimp that's beaten up by some low-life scumbag or do you want your son to be turned into an abusive low-life scumbag?

Think carefully and then take action.

Firstly, you need to get away from him.

Then you need to file a case with the local police.

Finally, find help for your children and for yourself.

Don't let him back in your life, no matter what. Your children will appreciate it one day.